The BEST
There is
NOTHING wrong with doing your best. There is nothing wrong with being the
best YOU. There IS something wrong with this constant pressure of
being THE BEST. Of being the top of the top; not just in one thing but in
everything. While there may be some extremely talented individuals out
there that can be the top of their class or Olympic gold medalists or the star
of the show; the fact is that most of us aren't.
While I
am not encouraging anyone not to put their all into something, why is there
shame in being just ok? Why can't we be proud that our child is in the
chorus of the musical instead of being the star? Why aren't we happy that
our child got into a college that fits his/her needs instead of Harvard, Yale,
etc.? There is going to be only one valedictorian. There is going
to be only one class president. Only one (possibly two) captain for the
football team. The majority of students are NOT going to be those things
and that is OK!
Why do we
buy into the illusion that our lives have to be THE BEST?
(See: https://bfthsboringblog.blogspot.com/2019/03/perfect.html)
Most of us are NOT millionaires (or billionaires, trillionaires, etc.)!
Most of us are not even remotely wealthy. Maybe it doesn't appear that
way because there are so many "reality" shows on that portray the
glamorous lives of A, B or C , or because of social media postings of X,
Y or Z. It's NOT true. Most of us just are. Period.
We are
NOT Oscar winners. We are NOT top chefs. We are NOT Super Bowl
champs. We did not graduate #1 in our class at Harvard. Most of us
didn't go to Harvard. I'm not knocking Harvard, but I'm of the mind that
there's nothing wrong with being #100 out of class of 250 from whatever college
or university you might want to name.
As
parents, of course we want what is best for our children. But what is
best for MY child is NOT what is best for yours. Pushing a child, or
yourself, into a mold that does not fit is not being the best. It can be
dangerous and unhealthy.
We should
NOT focus on being THE BEST. What we should be focusing on is how to live
our lives to the fullest. To allow ourselves to enjoy and excel at what
we LOVE. As for the things that we are not good at or do not care for;
let them go.
Let me
put this out there...I was NOT the BEST student in school. In high
school, I excelled and LOVED certain subjects. There were certain
subjects that I just couldn't wrap my head around. (And to this day, I
STILL can't). For the most part, even in the subjects that I excelled in,
I was (to my recollection) not the BEST student in the class. But I still
walked away with knowledge that I have to this day and my memories of those
classes are something that I carry with me to this day. (I fully admit
that I've blocked out most of the memories around subjects that I just couldn't
"get".) I didn't go to Harvard, I went to Cedar Crest
College because after touring several different schools
it felt like the right place for me and it was. I got a good
education. For the most part I did my best when I was there. (I'll
admit there were times when I most likely did not, but that's part of the
process too.) In my years since then I've had several jobs; some I liked
and some I did not. I've done my best in all of them. One of my
passions is writing. This blog is my outlet for that. It's not the
best blog out there; although I'm not sure how one would judge that. It
certainly isn't the most talked about or read. But it IS me. It
allows me to express myself as BEST as I can.
I am not
THE BEST by any means. Upon reflection, I don't want to be. What I
am, for the most part, is happy (and relatively healthy). I am the best
Bfth that I can be.
I
encourage you all to NOT be THE BEST. Be YOUR best. Be you.
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