Bench Etiquette
I'd like to think of myself as a (reasonably) polite person.
Perhaps I am overly sensitive at times, which is why I'm asking the
question about bench etiquette. I could be behind the times. (Am I
turning into a fussy old lady? Please tell me no!)
The scenario is as follows.
At the office complex where I work there are two picnic benches in the
back of the building. They are in the direct sunlight. This is also
the only place people are allowed to smoke. Towards the front of the
building, near the road, there is a shaded area with a bench. This is
area also overlooks the building to the north which is currently under
construction, so it can be loud in the area as trucks go in and out and all
sorts of equipment is being used.
When the weather is nice, I try
to get outside. Sometimes I walk, but sometimes I like to find a place to
sit and just read my book (ok, officially a Nook, but...). I generally
gravitate to the front of the office where the bench is in the shade of the
trees. If the bench is occupied by someone else or a group of people, I
usually head to the back of the building. The picnic tables there are
rarely used. It's a nice area, but it can get hot (no shade); I don't
mind the smoking too much because there isn't that much going on and the tables
are in a place where the smokers generally aren't.
On a recent nice, not too warm,
day I went out at lunch and found the front bench unoccupied. I sat on
the right hand side of the bench, with my purse to my left. I dug out my
Nook and glasses and started reading.
Five or ten minutes into it,
three ladies (girls?) came by. They were speaking another language (I
won't say which one so as to prevent any discrimination), but I know they also
speak English. They said nothing to me, but "took over" the
bench. They chattered away; I don't know about what. They never
addressed me. And perhaps I was rude in not addressing them.
I "thought" the
appropriate etiquette if one wanted to share a bench that someone was already
seated on was to ask if it was all right. I have done this in the past
and when I've sat on this bench before and someone wanted to share it, they
asked if I minded. (Which, of course, I didn't.)
I did feel a bit uncomfortable
sitting there as they chatted and giggled. But I wasn't going to move.
I continued to read, or tried to, for another 10 or so minutes.
Then I decided it was time to go back inside. But I wondered, would
I have stayed outside longer if my space hadn't been "invaded?" Next time I go out, will I avoid the bench? Will I go straight to the back of the building where the picnic benches are even if it is hot?
Am I being overly sensitive?
Am I over thinking this? What would you have done? (Or not
done?) There's still plenty of outdoor time left before it becomes too cold;
let me know what you think!
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